on being a victim
"eto ang keyword PLAY... i don't want to be the VICTIM again.."~ texted by a friend
PLAY.. is that really the answer? I don't think so, cause I do believe in karma and boy it's amazing how it can just sneak up on you in the most unexpected of moments. And although I understand how tiring it is to be a victim, be it of a certain situation or of a certain person, (believe me, been there, done that), I don't think playing around will actually solve anything. Maybe for some it will make things easier, simpler, but for me, no. I just don't think I can stomach playing with other people's emotions, cause I've been there, I know just how bad it feels to get played with. I don't think I can also be in a meaningless relationship with someone who's just playing around, because things won't always stay as simple as you want them to be. Eventually things will change and evolve to (god forbid) something complicated that you end up digging a hole for yourself and you don't even notice until its too late (been there as well). I told my friend I'd rather be a victim of someone else than be a victim of my own foolish actions. But when I think about it, most of the time, we become victims of both without even fully realizing it. So, in the end when we put karma, stupidity and consequences into the picture, I think all of us fall prey to ourselves, we are our own VICTIMS, some are volunteers, while some are totally caught offguard. The fact is, there are no easy rules or certain paths to follow when it comes to relationships or emotions for that matter, sometimes we just have to make the best of the cards that we're dealt with and hope we survive...
PLAY.. is that really the answer? I don't think so, cause I do believe in karma and boy it's amazing how it can just sneak up on you in the most unexpected of moments. And although I understand how tiring it is to be a victim, be it of a certain situation or of a certain person, (believe me, been there, done that), I don't think playing around will actually solve anything. Maybe for some it will make things easier, simpler, but for me, no. I just don't think I can stomach playing with other people's emotions, cause I've been there, I know just how bad it feels to get played with. I don't think I can also be in a meaningless relationship with someone who's just playing around, because things won't always stay as simple as you want them to be. Eventually things will change and evolve to (god forbid) something complicated that you end up digging a hole for yourself and you don't even notice until its too late (been there as well). I told my friend I'd rather be a victim of someone else than be a victim of my own foolish actions. But when I think about it, most of the time, we become victims of both without even fully realizing it. So, in the end when we put karma, stupidity and consequences into the picture, I think all of us fall prey to ourselves, we are our own VICTIMS, some are volunteers, while some are totally caught offguard. The fact is, there are no easy rules or certain paths to follow when it comes to relationships or emotions for that matter, sometimes we just have to make the best of the cards that we're dealt with and hope we survive...
posted by cherrycoloredfunk at 11:38 PM
3 Comments:
PLAY... is that really the answer? Yes and No. It depends on where you are in the spectrum. Bottom line, PLAY comes in varying degrees and where you put yourself at will determine if it’s the answer or not. For me, I put myself on the lighter side of the spectrum where I define Play as something you participate in but you are not fully committed with. A good example would be go and enjoy the company of your significant other but make sure you play your cards right so as not to disappoint oneself when things doesn’t go his or her way. Don’t just give your all. Don’t be fully committed to your significant other. Don’t let your emotions take over you. What I mean by all of these is enjoy life. Enjoy everything you do as if you’re playing with your friends in the park. I disagree with what you wrote that playing around will not solve anything. In fact, it will actually solve the main problem i.e. “I don’t want to be the VICTIM again”. Playing around is like being in the lighter side of life. It’s like bumming around in Boracay, getting that enviable tan while drinking a glass of Jonah’s Pineapple Rum Shake. So when your significant other plays with your feelings, you ain’t got no problem with that. You were playing all along too, but in a different way. You were having fun while you were playing with him or her. Weren’t both of you playing like kids in a playground during your good moments? You were playing like you were just chillen’, If you get my drift. Peace. :)
funny, easier said than done huh? i still say playing around won't solve anything.. better admit being hurt than being in a constant state of denial... if you get my drift.. ;)
You can't deny the FACT that its always easier to say something than doing it. Yes, I agree with you. It's better to admit being hurt than being in a constant state of denial. BUT that's not the point.
Let's say I just got off from a fuckin' rocky relationship and here I am, announcing to everyone (not literally of course) that I'm playing around i.e. in the context of my previous comments. Who sez I'm not hurt?!? Of course I am! I admit to myself that I'm hurt with what happened. It's just that I would choose to play around like having a tan and drinking a glass of Jonah's Pineapple Rum shake in Boracay rather than admitting being hurt, accepting the fact that I'm a VICTIM, making the best out of the cards I'm dealt with and hoping I survive. Nada for me bud, that's a negative attitude.
Again, it all boils down on your outlook in life. IDEALLY, I would rather play around like what kids are doing in the playground. Are they having fun? YES.
It's easier said than done but if that's always your mindset, so be it. Good luck to you!
"I told my friend I'd rather be a victim of someone else than be a victim of my own foolish actions. But when I think about it, most of the time, we become victims of both without even fully realizing it." - A subservient attitude won't lead to anything. Never accept to be a victim. If you get my drift :P
Kaya chill, steady lang. Enjoy life sis! It's easier said than done but the HELL with it! Kaya natin yan! :)
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